Rumors destroy everything

I have heard that rumors destroy Churches, relationships, marriages, most everything we hold dearly. I never really had as much of an understanding about any of this until recently. Most everything I say to others is usually shared with people that I thought to be, not only my friends, but my accountability partners, meaning that nothing we discuss goes to anyone else. That all recently came to a screaming halt in the past month. I want to say this one thing to you: Never engage in a conversation that you are not directly involved in. If you did not see it with your own eyes, then don't repeat it. If someone tells you something in confidence, before you repeat that to anyone, please ask them is this okay to talk about, before you talk to anyone else.

I'm not going to quote scriptures here, most all us are aware that any unwholesome talk is wrong. Meaning if we are not talking about someone to build them up, to make them better men & women then we are only trying to defeat them and cause them to stumble. Very recently I shared some things with a very close friend only to hear someone that I know he doesn't talk to, call me and say that I heard that you had done this to cause problems at Church. There was only one person I spoke to this about and it came back to me and was very VERY hurtful, that it was communicated by a person that has told me himself that nothing we say to each other goes anywhere else. I learned this my trust is in My LORD Jesus Christ and in no man, man's heart is wicked who can trust it.
I am for the first time in my life having a serious health condition that I have found out that has killed many of my family members, high blood pressure. My blood pressure was at 161/145 when I sent an email to my pastor after my boss sent me to the doctor. My doctor had told me to take a break from everything that I absolutely did not have to do, meaning go to work, then home and completely relax. I've been on medication for a month & 1/2 now and my blood pressure is still not even close to what it was before. None of the leadership of my church has been by to check on us, and this is very painful. When I said I needed a break the only thing they could think was a problem between another person at church and no one considered my health.
There is no perfect Church and no perfect Pastor, we are all men and women and we all fall short of the glory of God. If you hear something about someone please, tell them to stop talking about this person, unless they say they went by to see them and they are not doing well. If you hear someone say I heard this from someone about so & so, then please tell them let's not talk about someone who is not here to defend themselves. This scripture comes to mind about people that choose to not help someone but talk about someone that is hurting.
2 Timothy 3:2-5
2People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.
I pray every day a read the scriptures daily and ask for God's direction in all things. I plain to remain in Him. His Spirit guides me I listen to his voice and I flee from a strangers voice. It is sad to say that some of my friends recently became a strangers voice.
Thanks for reading,
Monty Christopher Rogers